Monday, August 30, 2010

Oh right - that blog thing!

So! Long time no talk, eh? The culprit is my job, of course, but since I want to stay gainfully employed, that's all I'll say about that.

So let's talk about something else, shall we? How about my 15 year high school reunion? Seems it's in a few weeks. (Which - WTF? How has 15 years gone by so fast?) On the one hand, I'm tempted to go. Which is a total change of heart from the 10 year reunion, to which, I believe I said, wild horses couldn't drag me. But somehow, the ensuing 5 years have mellowed me a bit. (Or finding people on Facebook has convinced me that most of the people I went to high school have also put on weight, and have crappier jobs/ lives than I do. Which may not be the purest reason for wanting to go to a high school reunion, but I take what I can get.) There is a small handful of people I'd kinda like to see (and by small handful, I mean less than 5). It's also a family oriented event, at a local park, during daylight hours, so I don't think there's much danger of getting drunk and making a fool of myself. On the other hand, that means there is no alcohol to ease the social tension of seeing a bunch of people I didn't like 15 years ago. And I'm not sure I really want to go. There are lots of people I really don't want to ever see again. Which brings me to the big reason why I don't want to go: my really awful, abusive, high school boyfriend is one of the organizers. He sent out an email about it over the weekend, and just seeing that email made me feel a little sick.

So, tell me your opinions and your high school reunion stories! Should I stay or should I go?

16 comments:

Jess said...

Awful abusive ex-boyfriend as organizer? I would stay far far away unless there's someone you're dying to see that you can't arrange to meet up with some other time without abusive boyfriends as a backdrop.

Shelly Overlook said...

See, now I'm the kind of person that would want AHSB to see me now and I'd be all "Uh huh. Look at me! I'm a fantastic person you can't push around. Look at freaking wonderful I am!! Screw you, buddy!" But maybe that's just me. If you're going to make yourself sick over worrying about seeing him, then it isn't worth it. BTW, would Rock go with you?

I went to my 10 year, had fun, then went to my 20 year last year. The 20 year was interesting b/c we'd all reconnected so much due to FB. While I had a good time and I'm glad I went, I don't care if I see almost all of them again for another 20 years. It was the curiosity factor that got me. I wanted to see everyone and how they turned out. & I was at a place in my life where I truly didn't give a shit what anyone else thought, went to have fun, see who I wanted to see, then I got out.

d e v a n said...

I agree with Shelly Overlook. :)

Fiona Picklebottom said...

I went to my 20th last year. Prior to that, I never even considered going, as social things aren't anywhere near my comfort zone. But a couple old friends had gotten in touch with me and convinced me to go. I had a really fun time. But, if it were me (which it is not), I'd wait until the 20th... people have changed more by then.

Shelly said...

Jess- See, that's my first reaction, too. But then, I thought, I don't want to let him push me around anymore. Just the fact that he's going to be there shouldn't scare me away.

Shelly said...

Shelly - That's kind of how I want to be, too. And yes, Rock would go with me if I asked him to. But I also believe that if you don't go looking for trouble, it won't find you. It's been 15 years since I've seen AHSB and I'm not sure I want to break that trend.

It's the curiosity that's getting me, too. I kind of want to see how all these people turned out, too.

Shelly said...

HAHA, thanks Devan!

Shelly said...

Fiona - Interesting perspective. I do wonder what the 20 year will be like. It seems like most of us have kids now and are in the "little kids, raising a family" stage of life. Wonder what 5 more years will bring.

BeckEye said...

My 20 year was probably this year, if they had one. I'm not surprised I didn't get invited. I was kind of the ultimate blow-off artist. I didn't like most of the people I went to school with and I doubt they've changed much, so I have no interest in reunions.

Shelly said...

Beckeye - That is EXACTLY how I felt about the 10 year, and to a degree I still feel that way about the 15 year.

nicole said...

I missed my ten year reunion. There were actually three events to attend if one chose, but it was not a good weekend for me. I wouldn't have minded going to see some old friends, it just didn't work out. I say you get in touch with the people you would really like to see and leave it at that.

Swistle said...

I think I would go, and I would bring a flask. I think it would give me a good feeling to see the boyfriend again with the adult knowledge that he doesn't have power over you.

Shelly said...

Nicole - That sounds like what I'll probably do. I don't know. I keep going back and forth.

Shelly said...

Swistle - I think if I do go, a flask is a necessity! It might be interesting to see the ex. Maybe he's grown up and turned into a real person. Nah, probably not.

ree said...

Did you go???

Shelly said...

Ree - Yeah, I should totally update, shouldn't I? LOL!

No, I did not go. I'm a big believer in letting sleeping dogs lie.