tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8602153461120930259.post528294784743516490..comments2023-11-03T08:37:49.690-07:00Comments on Notthedaddy: AdviceShellyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10252114894311470243noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8602153461120930259.post-32542624401519134472008-01-08T12:57:00.000-08:002008-01-08T12:57:00.000-08:00Yeah, Alice, I think you're right. It's just such...Yeah, Alice, I think you're right. It's just such a tighrope to walk. I don't want to feel like I'm keeping anything from her, and I'm not, like I said, all my information comes from her. But I don't want to suggest something that she's not ready to hear. We all know what happens to the messenger.Shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10252114894311470243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8602153461120930259.post-22195413392036728552008-01-08T11:35:00.000-08:002008-01-08T11:35:00.000-08:00oy, those situations SUCK. i agree with gina - ab...oy, those situations SUCK. i agree with gina - about the only thing you can do is be there for her whatever she decides, and be honest with her. you can let your feelings about mike be known without necessarily telling her outright she should dump him.. but still let her know you're on her side if she does decide to break from him.Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15287792370490363047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8602153461120930259.post-79960826705746084412008-01-08T11:28:00.000-08:002008-01-08T11:28:00.000-08:00Thanks, Shelly. I think you're totally right. I ...Thanks, Shelly. I think you're totally right. I think if it were me needing advice, she would totally be able to see what was going on, but because it's her and she really loves the guy, she's being willfully blind. I just don't want her to come back and be like, "you knew what was going on! why didn't you tell me?!" But I don't know, not really. I do hope she saves herself. Thanks again.Shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10252114894311470243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8602153461120930259.post-90600096926797411932008-01-08T11:24:00.000-08:002008-01-08T11:24:00.000-08:00Hey Gina and welcome! You didn't read anything wr...Hey Gina and welcome! You didn't read anything wrong - I have no information that she doesn't have. In fact, all of my information comes directly from her. You're definitely right, she's not ready to accept what anyone else can easily see. I just feel so bad to suspect this and not say anything. I feel like I should at least guide her to suspecting more. But, like you say, pushing will strain our friendship. She has often remarked that I'm the only one of her friends that hasn't encouraged her to dump him. Maybe I was wrong not to. I really didn't think he'd go this far. Thanks for your advice.Shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10252114894311470243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8602153461120930259.post-15501977385646593782008-01-08T11:12:00.000-08:002008-01-08T11:12:00.000-08:00Haha, jmc! Now, hell no, of course I don't! In m...Haha, jmc! Now, hell no, of course I don't! In my youger, single, wilder days, I might could have been persuaded to. : )<BR/><BR/>See, that's exactly what I (and Rock) thought. Oh, my poor friend.Shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10252114894311470243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8602153461120930259.post-58574995386834649702008-01-08T10:39:00.000-08:002008-01-08T10:39:00.000-08:00Uh, yeah, your friend needs to dump Mike. She's in...Uh, yeah, your friend needs to dump Mike. She's in denial right now because if she were you looking in on the same situation, she'd know better. I don't think there is anything you can do because if you push I think it'll backfire and hurt your friendship. You just have to be supportive and wait for the inevitable, hoping that she saves herself, sooner rather than later, from a life with this dirtbag.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8602153461120930259.post-37827715171365830322008-01-08T10:21:00.000-08:002008-01-08T10:21:00.000-08:00What can you say? Unless I read it wrong, you are...What can you say? Unless I read it wrong, you aren't privy to any information that she isn't. So you wouldn't be telling her anything she doesn't know.<BR/><BR/>While she sounds like she is suspicious (for good reason - Mike sounds like a skank), it seems like she is not ready to accpet/believe/whatever.<BR/><BR/>I have been in this same situation with a friend and the only thing you can really do is help her if she asks you and make sure she knows you are there for her. You can ask questions or start the topic if you think she wants to talk, give her advice if she wants it, etc. But pushing any harder will just put a strain on your friendship at a time when it sounds like she really needs it.<BR/><BR/>It's a frustrating situation.Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00684328990767140199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8602153461120930259.post-63827577374696733122008-01-08T10:17:00.000-08:002008-01-08T10:17:00.000-08:00First, I have to ask, in regards to "I sure don't ...First, I have to ask, in regards to "I sure don't decide to do that out of the blue with no encouragement from the guy", do you do that WITH encouragement from the guy? I KID.<BR/><BR/>Mike was headed for a little afternoon delight with Lisa. My advice to Carole is to dump Mike posthaste.emailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03653316423608779303noreply@blogger.com